The strongest people on earth are not
the physically- strong, but the mentally strong people. They have such a great
positive mental attitude that enables them to keep moving even when there are
supposedly clear reasons why they should go back. They believe that ‘tough
times never last, but tough people do’, in the words of Dr Robert Schuller.
Meanwhile, as against a popular opinion,
these set of great minds are known for what they do not practice, rather than
what they practice. For them, there are 15 of those things they never practise.
Let’s go:
2.
2.Give away power: The
mentally-strong people never surrender their power in any compromised or coaxed
deal. They do not sacrifice the brighter tomorrow on the altar of a ‘begging’
today. They never surrender power either to friends or foes, forces or
fantasies. They understand the importance of holding on.
3.
3.Shy away from
necessary change:
They are not the overtly rigid-principled and conventional-minded persons who
loath change like leprosy. They understand when change is necessary, and follow
the path of least resistance to make those necessary changes in their lives and
situations. To them, the world is changing, why not you?
4.
4.Waste energy on
things they cannot control: Mentally-strong people never employ their brain
and mind power on self-destructive activities like worry and anxiety over
situations they could not control. They are rather creative; thinking of the
best solutions to solve their problems and that of others, where need be.
5.
5.Worry about
pleasing others:
Never! They are not popular-opinionated persons, who go about looking for a pat
on the back from every body. They take a step; make a decision they feel is
right and necessary at any point in time, without minding whose ox is gored.
6.
6.Fear taking
calculated risks:
The jelly fish risk- averse fellows of this world would never take a risk, in
spite of its potential returns. But that is not the mentally strong people.
They understand that life itself is risk, and so takes the bull by the horn
whenever such opportunity comes up to take a returnable risks. And even if the
game turns bad, they beat their chest and forge ahead; not crying over spilled
milk, hoping tomorrow would be a good day. They have learnt the lesson on how
best to do it, and that’s enough.
7.
7.Dwell on the
past:
The mentally-strong persons are progressive-minded people. They never dwell on
the past, especially the ugly past of failures and adversity. They find it
difficult keeping an archive of past events, as they feel that it portrays a
backward mentality.
8.
8.Make the same
mistake repeatedly:
While they may have fallen over and over again, mentally-strong people easily
learn from their mistakes and move on to correct it. They don’t back out from
trying new things even in areas they’ve fallen before, but be sure they won’t
repeat their mistakes. That is what makes them champions- never quit, learn!
9. 9.Give up after
initial failure:
Champions never do either. To these great minds, failure is not final. To them,
stumbling block is a stepping stone to success. Hence, they neither fear
failure nor the tendency of failing again. They learn as they fail, until they
perfect.
110.
Resent other
people’s success:
Mentally-strong people have no inferiority complex. They believe that they are
embodiments of greatness, ready to explode. Hence, there is no room for
resenting others’ success, or being jealous over it. They respect others and
appreciate what they have achieved too.
111.
Fear ‘alone
time’:
‘Alone time’ is the time when friends and families seem to desert us, leaving
us to carry our crosses alone. It is at such a time, many poor-minded fellows
usually begin to have resentment against God and man, and at worst, contemplate
suicide with a line of ‘nobody cares for me; I’m gone’! But the mentally-strong
persons at such a time, gets stronger. For them, it is a season of preparation
for greatness- it does not scare them.
112.Feel the world
owe them anything:
They never feel that way. They believe in self effort. They believe we all need
to make contributions to our society general wellbeing. When those who are
supposedly in position of helping them, fails in that responsibility, they
don’t show aggression or malice over that. They easily acknowledge that the
neighbour next door does not actually owe them anything. They put more of their
confidence and hope in God.
113.Keep unforgiving
spirit:
The mentally strong people are so matured in mind as to understand the
principle of releasing others to release one. They easily forgive and forbear
offenders, not just for the sake of the offender, but for their own sakes, so
that they can move on without distractions.
114.Feel insecure
over a perceived rival: Inferior men are not secured. They are even afraid
of their shadows, let alone a perceived rival. Then in other to keep what they
feel belong to them, they seek for ways to run others down as well as cut them
down. This is what the mentally strong people never do. To them, life is not a
competition, but a community where every person is expected to contribute his
own quota for general well-being. So what is the fuss about others’ achievement!
115.Expect immediate
results:
The mentally strong people believe in hardwork and legitimate means of earning
a living. They never go for compromised short cuts to achieve immediate success
that might taste bitter tomorrow. They understand that it takes quality time
and commitment to achieve true success. They focus in achieving an enduring
result that guarantees a bright and beautiful future for themselves and others.
They are not in a hurry to get up there, being assured they would definitely
get them.
